--- Wholesome Addiction: 223 --- Listener Questions Is it my imagination or does Ally Raismen have the best ass ever? ~SexyBeastieBoy ------------------------------------------------------ Hello again Boys, So you made my whole day with cast 221. =D Seriously I saw I had a new episode in my podcasts, read the description, and actually got up EARLIER than normal so I could get to work and start listening! So thanks for that. :-) Thanks for all the explanations about the voices, accents, phrases and whatnot. (For the record, no I have never tried BenWa balls.) Now I feel like I'm in on the joke. =D I did forget a question last time: who is Crom (not sure if I'm spelling that right)? I'm familiar with the Flying Spaghetti Monster (blessed is he), is Crom kind of the same thing? Thanks also for explaining why you say "huge" the way you do. But you guys know my pseudonym is from Holy Grail, right? Of course you do. This little exchange cracked me up: Beef: So she's gonna shit a lava lamp? Op: nooooooo. Also this: You might catch a nasty case of death. And there is no cure for that. Listening to Sex Lives podcast and they talked about this: https://m.reddit.com/r/gonewildaudio Have you guys ever heard this? Some of it is kinda hot. Also is it tacky for me to ask you guys to listen to another podcast? It's not very long (that's what she said) but I just found that the stuff that they were talking about in this episode is extremely relevant to all of your interests https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/stuff-mom-never-told-you/id304531053?mt=2&i=372309609 Certainly a different tone than your show, but I think this episode in particular has stuff men really need to know in it! Also found this story to be extremely interesting. Yes I know it's not very recent, but I certainly never heard about it until yesterday! http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3823983 Another VERY interesting read. Again not very recent, but somehow I just became aware of it. So relevant to the cast! http://www.salon.com/2013/06/02/the_truth_about_female_desire_its_base_animalistic_and_ravenous/ Ok, now onto the serious portion of the program. Over the course of the hundred or so episodes I've listened to, there have been occasions when I've spoken aloud to my phone, in answer to various questions you guys have posed. I would like to give you all one woman's perspective. A woman that is NOT from Utah, (Hi Cindy!), relatively normal, not a prude (well duh), and at my age (43) not exactly an innocent flower. You could say I'm a MIWLF. (The W stands for wouldn't. I'm not even a solid 5.5 like Sean) That being said, here are a few that have stuck out in my mind. Cast 164 You had a discussion about men "checking out". Sean I believe it was you who said "we need communication between genders or this will never stop." My question is: But why? I guess I'm pretty cynical about heterosexual relationships. (I say hetero because I think possibly it's easier for same gender couples to understand each other) I met my first love at 19, we got married when I was 27, and then divorced when I was 40. I only ever dated 3 guys in high school, and never even so much as kissed any of them! If I had foreseen how easily accessible porn and vibrators would become (thank you inter webs), I probably would have stayed single! I guess I've gotten to this place where I don't see the point in sex and/or relationships. Like, why deal with all the bullshit when I can take care of myself just fine. It seems to me that everyone is in an endless pursuit of a better orgasm or something. How is it worth any of the pain, rejection, heartbreak, etc. that goes along with finding and/or keeping an S.O., just for a few (possible) fleeting moments of pleasure? Which are not even a guarantee if you're a woman in a hetero relationship! Popular wisdom says that relationships take a lot of hard work. If it's THAT hard, maybe they aren't meant to exist! Cast 166 You guys had a discussion about the dreaded Friend Zone. Possibly due to a listener email, I can't recall. There have been so many things written about this already, but my take is this: a woman shouldn't string a man along (for ANY reason) if it's clear he wants to be with her romantically and she has no interest. By the same token, a man shouldn't expect that just by virtue of being a decent human being to a woman, eventually she will suddenly be overcome with the urge to fuck him. Men, if you're only being nice because you're hoping that is going to happen, do everyone a favor and stop trying to have female friends. I think friendships between the genders can only work if neither party finds the other remotely attractive. Cast 171 Moving the clit to have vaginal orgasms. Sean questions why. Because "vaginal" orgasms are held up as the gold standard. They also talk about this in the podcast I mentioned above. And apparently Freud is mostly to blame for this pervasive attitude. Thanks SO much, you coke-head misogynist. This article kind of sums it all up: http://nursingclio.org/2014/03/25/clitoral-history-a-tale-of-love-loss-and-discovery/ As hetero women, we all want to be able to have an orgasm just from penetration, without any hands and/or foreign objects involved. Like it is portrayed in every movie, tv show, and fictional story ever. Aside from porn of course, and really trashy(read: awesome) romance novels. I think women would be waaaaay more enthusiastic about sex in general if we were guaranteed to cum every time the way men almost always are. But because of our anatomy this isn't always the case. (Shannon must be one of the lucky few that doesn't have this problem. Count your blessings, Sean!) Can you really blame us if we are not as interested? Just in case you guys think I'm full of shit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic I don't buy into the whole "you don't have to have an orgasm for sex to be a good experience" theory. Like, wtf is the point if not to have an orgasm? Which I can do just fine my damn self. Thereby rendering an S.O. totally unnecessary. Honestly, reading erotica and/or fantasizing feels better than 95% of sex with my ex husband did. I used to joke (to my friends, not him!) that the movie Gladiator made my whole honeymoon! (It came out about a week before we went on our trip) Cast 176 Subtlety is lost on men, just ASK/TELL us what you want. But women are often raised to never put ourselves first and make no demands. There are tons of studies and essays about this. Gender socialization. Man, it is fucked up. It's really difficult to overcome, too. Cast 184 Sexless marriages. Mine was for the last 4 or 5 years, right up until the divorce. I don't recommend it. But mine was caused by an unbelievable amount of built up anger and resentment on my part. I don't recommend that either. But in order to avoid that, we would have had to communicate, like you guys are always saying people need to. But it's uncomfortable and awkward to do that. Which brings me back to my "why fucking bother?" hypothesis. Kim Davis: You guys asked "why do a job that may make you go against your beliefs?" Because when she took the job gay marriage wasn't a thing. Don't get me wrong, she's a giant, flaming asshole. But I'm sure it never occurred to her right-wing, evangelical, close minded ass that she would EVER have to do such a thing. Sex drive frequency matching in S.O.s How on earth can this be figured out BEFORE people are too emotionally invested to give up on the relationship? Seriously. Because if you can answer that, write a book. You'll make a mint. And once again, back to my "why bother?" theory. Cast 191 I married my first love. He was an immature asshole who took advantage of my desire to be a people pleaser, and the fact that I am horribly non-confrontational. For over 20 years. You wouldn't believe the bullshit I put up with. In the name of love. All because society jams this idea of monogamy and soul-mates down our throats from the time we can walk. Then we got a divorce. But I'm soooooo much better off without his dumb ass. Please see Cast 164 notes for further details. Cast 220 Props to Beef for the Kool and the Gang reference. (I think he started singing Get Down On It) =D Ok, now I'm totally caught up in all my meandering musings and remarks about the show. So you guys won't have to suffer through any more ridiculous sized emails. Going forward I can address one cast at a time. It's weird, I love listening to the show, even though sometimes it feels somewhat masochistic, since I think male-female relationships are utterly pointless. For me, it's sort of like when you have a jacked up cuticle/hangnail thingy that you can't stop playing with even though it hurts a little. Hope that analogy makes sense. I guess I'm hoping something will make me feel less cynical, mostly because I have a 12 year old son who I fully expect will be interested in girls and relationships VERY SOON. It's going to be really difficult for me to advise him on anything when I think it's all bullshit! Ok, one last thought, how's this for a nickname rather than my previous one? Keep it up(that's what she said), Booboo Kitty Fuck (a la Jay & Silent Bob Strike Back) P.S. Since this was not a very festive letter, look at this: http://ms-couture.tumblr.com/post/145422807038 I'm aware it's very vanilla, BUT, this guy should teach a class. Right up until a certain point. I figured since you 3 are experts, you should be able to tell me where he went wrong. Let me know what you think. Much love to you boys! ~SheHasHugeTracksOfLand Recommendations of the week Remi Lacroix in a glory hole... http://www.xvideos.com/video8747860/remy_lacroix_takes_on_4_dicks_in_gloryhole_1.2 http://www.xvideos.com/video8748401/remy_lacroix_takes_on_4_dicks_in_gloryhole_8.1 Melissa Moore - Listener Farcry http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5630cbb2a06bf Dance for me… http://www.vporn.com/webcams/cute-sexy-asian-webcam-girl/102890/?utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=gallery&utm_campaign=nudevista Why your girl is at the spa http://motherless.com/3174C54